February 28, 2009


I decided because 2009 has sucked royally for me so far, so I want a quick review before I put it all behind me.

21/01/09 As previously posted my Mum passed away.
24/01/09 My friends gave birth to a baby girl Isla.
04/02/09 Our wee dog Staffa went to the vet and never came home, she was 15 but still a sad loss.
12/02/09 My sister found out that she had a miscarriage.

So there you go a 3 week spell of hell in our family.

A period of time like this in your life teaches you many things about yourselves and others.

Myself - I have discovered that mentally and emotionally I am strong, some might say hard but more like composed, I have adapted and while not happy with the situation have come to realise that you have to play the cards that life throws at you.

Friends - I always thought of my self as not popular but well liked, I have to say when you have a period of time like I have had you really get an understanding of how you are perceived by others around you. I have to say that I have been blown away by my friends and work colleagues, the cards the phone calls and the flowers are so touching and while they do not actually change anything, they do let you appreciate that people are thinking of you in your time of grief.

Anyway that is my year so far, I originally started this blog to talk about things and not so much about my family and what happened to us, but there you go.

So hopefully as I have ended this year by reviewing it, so happy 2010 everybody and here is hoping it is a better year.

February 03, 2009

Thank You

This is a note to thank everybody for their kind words and thoughts on the passing of my Mum.

To all those who commented on my Blog and passed their thoughts via twitter, the 120 cards we have received and the nearly 200 people that came to the funeral service. It is amazing the feeling when you see all of these people come to remember someone you love and to be with you in your time of grief.

The line up while hard, to stand there with people you know and don't know coming towards you and giving you their thoughts and yet if I had to do it again I would, it makes you appreciate however you feel about people or yourselves you very rarely really know how well you or others are regarded.

My Mum always worried she was misunderstood, she could not be bothered with fools and could be harsh when required but never nasty. Boyfriends and girlfriends of my sister and I never met her standards and they always seemed to dis-like her, but then what person can match the expectations of a mother for her children. But on Saturday she would have seen that she was well respected by friends, family and old work colleagues, she would have seen that all of her family were very well supported by their friends and old and current work colleagues. She will have seen that while she is gone her friends and family are not alone.

The last thing this has made me appreciate is that for others in their time of grief I am not as good as I could be, I will endeavour to be as supportive to others as they have been to me and my family.